Sister Snubbed From Enjoying Wedding Festivities When Her Concerns for Sibling Causes Rift in Relationship, the Whole Family Gets Involved

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Sep 14, 2024 1:00 PM EDT

Welcome back internet enthusiasts. Sometimes lines get crossed, and it's all too easy to let our assumptions run wild when we're in distressed states. We may feel wronged, upset, confused, when all we really need to do is talk to the person involved and hear their side of the story. As they say, communication is key, and it couldn't be more true. 

This brings us to the Reddit thread. It's about a woman who's been ostracized by her sister. Her sister was going through some medical issues, and she was her support system at the time, or so she thought. As soon as her medical issues cleared up, it was like night and day. The sister cut her out of her life, and went no contact. After some time, everyone in the family received a wedding invitation. Everyone except the one who knew about the medical conditions…she cut contact under the guise that her boundaries were crossed, when in reality the woman was just highly worried about her sister.  

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    Last week, my parents and all of my siblings received invitations to her wedding later this year. I did not. I didn't expect to, but I guess I also didn't expect my parents to be invited since she doesn't speak to them either, and being snubbed like this is so hurtful. I will admit that my anxiety about her health issues was not fair to
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    ÷ r/TrueOffMyChest ⚫ SnooMuffins6689 My sister invited my whole family to her wedding except for me.
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    Two years ago, my sister had some health issues. We were fairly close at the time, and she updated me consistently about her pain, fear, etc. We spoke daily, and she asked that I not share her health issues with anyone else in our family because she wanted privacy and also did not talk much to our parents. I did as she
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    asked, and also checked in on her often and offered help or whatever she needed. I sent her memes and videos to cheer her up, as I would any friend. We were in contact pretty much daily and I was very worried for her. I often told her we would figure everything out, my way of showing her that I was in this with her.
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    Her health issues culminated in her needing surgery, and as the time drew near, she became distant and refused to share when the procedure would take place. She finally did, but would not let me know what time. I begged her just to tell me when it was over so I knew she was safe. She refused, and said that my anxiety over her
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    health issues was too much, and that she was sick of my constant contact. She also said that my stating that "we" would figure things out was intrusive. After she told me this, she never spoke to me again. I was blocked on all platforms and ignored at family events.
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    Last week, my parents and all of my siblings received invitations to her wedding later this year. I did not. I didn't expect to, but I guess I also didn't expect my parents to be invited since she doesn't speak to them either, and being snubbed like this is so hurtful. I will admit that my anxiety about her health issues was not fair to
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    her, but I was also forced to keep it all a secret for an entire year and bear her burden with no help during a very serious health crisis. I don't think I deserved to be cut off completely.
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    One sibling asked her why I wasn't invited. She stated that I had crossed a boundary that was unforgivable, and that she didn't think it was worth the money to have me at her wedding. I am not saying anyone needs to invite anyone they don't want to to their wedding, but again, it sickens me to think that I put my
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    life on hold to be her emotional dumping ground until she no longer needed me, and now I am the cause of my whole family trying to figure out what to do and who to side with.
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    The whole situation makes me absolutely sick to my stomach. I likely wouldn't have gone even if I had been invited due to her not speaking to me for so long but the fact that she's going around telling people that I broke some huge boundary when I was just concerned about her is breaking my heart. I would do anything for
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    those I love. I am sick and exhausted by this situation.
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    Edits: I'm being told I left out the very important info that my sister cheated on her fiancé. I believe he knows because he was with her though her medical crisis and knows about it. As far as I am aware, she was clean when they met (prior testing). Has he put two and two together, or has she told him? I don't know.
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    Also, yes I have anxiety. It is successfully medicated 99% of the time. I am not pretending that I did not perhaps check in too much or "creep her out" as one comment put it. I checked in a few times a day (many of which were initiated by her telling me about pain, etc.) and I am sure that is part of it. I'm not trying to
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    hide that. I also am not trying to make myself the "main character" of her illness lol. She did not have cancer, it was caught in time to get rid of everything and as far as I know she is still well.
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    Update: Hi all. I wrote this post to get it all "off my chest." I didn't expect anyone to see or care. Thank you for all of your kind advice. My sister's fiancé was with her for her procedure and I presume he knows how she got sick. This was more of a way to try and get it out of my mind and instead it has blown up. I will read
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    everything but likely will not respond. Lastly, I know some people are claiming I must be lying or leaving something out. To my knowledge I am not, and I am comfortable with everything I've said as my side of the situation. I do have anxiety and do believe that my checking in my sister was too much for her. I'm not pretending it wasn't and I'm also
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    not pretending she had no right to be upset. I just think she overreacted and it hurts. I will not tell anyone in my family how to respond to her. They know my side now. Thanks!
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    • Mehitabel9 2y ago I mean this in all sincerity: her. Don't feel obligated to keep her secrets anymore. Tell your parents all about the "boundary" you broke -- that you kept her secret about her illness for a year
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    and that you did everything in your power to support her through it. Tell them that right up until the day she went into the hospital for her surgery, she gave you no indication that she was upset with anything you were doing, and that she completely blindsided you when she cut contact. Tell
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    them that you don't expect them to choose sides, and that you're perfectly happy to stay away from your sister's wedding, but that you're not perfectly happy to have her dropping all these hints about this terrible terrible thing you did to her, when you did not in
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    fact do anything terrible to her at all.
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